F.E.A.R: False Evidence Appearing Real
Fear can arise for/through a wide variety of factors. It can arise from worry; worry that you’ll never be enough or worry that you’ll never have enough. Our worries can elevate themselves/ become so elevated that they turn into fears and we’re unable to proceed and move past them. So, what can we do? How can we manage our fears and limit our worries?
The Bible in Matthew 6:34 (NIV) states…
‘Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself.
Each day has enough trouble of its own.’
When I was little, one of my fears was of the dark. Now if you asked me why I was afraid it’d have to tell you that it wasn’t the darkness that I was afraid of per se, it was what was in the darkness. Or more specifically, the unknown. Likewise, in so many of our own situations. Perhaps what we’re worried about or fearing isn’t a [articular issue but rather what is hidden behind that issue or the complicated web of things we haven’t dealt with manifesting itself in our worries.
Having overcome my fear of the dark, if you were to ask me what my current fear is (or one of my current fears); it would have to be marriage. See, I’ve seen marriages around me fail and I’ve seen some (very!) ugly looking marriages. But if I was to really dissect that it’s becoming clear to me that it’s not the institution of marriage that I’m afraid of. It’s that I’d marry the ‘wrong’ person, end up having a miserable life and raise children in a miserable home- aka. Failure.
Now these are legitimate fears and thinking about it. It’s something to fear; it’s not baseless. However, is it something that we can control? Yes, perhaps to an extent we can control it. I can try and evaluate carefully (in accordance to the word of God) my husband’s character before I marry him, in order to give ourselves the best chance of success in our marriage. However, even in doing that, there are still a lot of things I don’t and can’t have control over. I can’t control his intentions, his mind or his actions. Should I worry in that case?
I’m learning that it’s pointless to worry over things that I cannot control. See, God says that I am His (Isaiah 43:1), that He is with me wherever I go even to the end of the age (Matthew 28:20). Even the psalmist in Psalm 34:4 and Psalm 94:19 (NIV) makes it clear that God is with us, always. I can’t tell you not to worry or fear, but I can tell you that when those worries and fears come (and they will); focus on God, cast your fears on Him. I can confidently tell you that He will show up and will strengthen you and help because He has always done it for me. There has not been an instance in my life where I have needed God and He has not been there for me. And reminding myself of His words, even those times when stress, worry and anxieties seem to be so overwhelming has always helped me to cope and make it through.
I sought the Lord, and he answered me;
he delivered me from all my fears.
Psalm 34:4 (NIV)
So why not try it today? Use the word of God, meditate on His promises and when those worries come, fight them with the promise; with God’s promises to you which are found in His word, and observe God fight for you.
God is His word and his word will never return without accomplishing that which it has been sent to accomplish. (John 1:1; Isaiah 55:11)
Peace and love,
Keep the light burning!
When anxiety was great within me,
your consolation brought me joy.
Psalm 94:19 (NIV)